I think I have to come to grips that no matter what I do or how I do it.... MY BOYS ARE GOING TO FIGHT! I have gone through parent tip after parent tip on fighting and I think the bottom line is that siblings fight and you just have to face that truth. IT SHALL SET YOU FREE!
At times they are best friends in the world and then, it hits.... LET'S GET READY TO RUMBLE!
I remember constantly fighting with Buffy and Shiloh (mainly Shiloh), but if you ever notice all the scars on my arms, those are from Buffy's finger nails. She use to pinch me in church, you can't scream in church. She also use to punch me in the chest, no wonder I am so flat, THANKS BUFF! Shiloh and I would fight to the death though, and I do mean to the death... ALMOST. Also Shiloh is the reason my nose tilts slightly to the left. YEP! One too many punches from his right hook.
So is this Karma? Oh what goes around comes around? Is it my mom getting her wish? She use to always say to us, "I can not wait till you have kids and they fight and you are the one pulling your hair out." It may be all of the above.
The thing is they can both be the sweetest brothers to each other. They run to each other and hug and tell each other how much they love each other if they have been apart for too long. When I wake them up in the morning somehow Benson is always in Britton's bed with his arm over him. Benson says he is, "protecting his baby brother." Britton shares EVERYTHING he has with Benson, and is content with Benson not sharing anything back.
BUT...... THEN.....
They fight over who gets to be what Transformer, who gets to sing what song, who gets to wear the Captain Jack Sparrow shirt, who gets to say the prayer, who gets to turn on the music, who gets to talk to me first, AND THE LIST GOES ON.
Do you know what is cute though? I taught them each that they need to take deep breaths when they are upset. So their new thing when the other one gets mad and they don't want to talk to each other is, "Benson (or Britton), I am taking a Deep Breath, I will talk to you afterwards!" AWESOME and so cute!
Every day I come to more of a reality that this is COMPLETELY normal and no matter what it is going to go on for a LONG, LONG time. Yes, I have come to grips. I don't like it, but I have come to grips!
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And I should have kids when?? HAHA! There is a reason why I say I'm perfectly ok being Aunti Jessi B to your boys. I love them so much. I can't possibly imagine having love for your boys and my own kids :-) I know you just want to pull your hair out sometimes but they are the cutest I have to say. Maybe we will have to have a Jessi B and boys day so you can have a break! I LOVE YOU!
I remember fighting with my little brother ALL the time and then one day (I think it was in highschool) it just clicked that I actually liked hanging out with my brother and from then on out, it was smooth sailing. I have no doubt that our boys will be the same way. There is a bond between brothers that cannot be described and regardless of the situation on a given day, that bond is based upon love that will never fade and only grow. And just think of what the Zebras will bring... more fighting! I LOVE IT!
Lacy! You motivated me to make a blog, but I don't know how to add people? Like, how can you be a friend on my blog? Is that even possible? AHH! Myspace is way easier! ha. Anyway, my blog page is http://brandychavez.blogspot.com/
and I would love for you to be my bloggie friend! And you are right, this is FUN!
Luvs,B
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I remember fighting with my brothers too. I'm glad you come to grips with reality. :) Your kids are so cute. They will love each other when they get older.
Hey sorry I didn't call you when we came down for 4th of July. It was anarchy. I'll have to fill you in sometime with it all. I'm sad I won't see you before you move. I hope everything goes well. LOVE YA!!!!
I still haven't faced the truth, and am constantly fighting with the kids about their fighting...frustrating. but I fought with my siblings also, and we are the best of friends now...so...I won't give up, but I am also not too worried.
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